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Self - Esteem
Other Issues >> Self - Esteem

Low self-esteem can lead to depression, unhappiness, insecurity, and low self-confidence. Building your self-esteem is the beginning of moving towards happiness and a better life. If you have low self-esteem it will be impossible for you to reach your full potential and will affect both your personal and professional life.

Healthy self-esteem does not imply over confidence.

People who have an OK level of self-esteem are:
  • Confident without being overbearing
  • Not devastated by criticism
  • Not overly defensive when questioned
  • Active and achievement oriented without being driven
  • Mostly happy with themselves as they are
  • Not easily defeated by setbacks and obstacles
They are also:
  • Able to accept and learn from their own mistakes
  • Unlikely to feel a need to put others down
  • Open and assertive in communicating their needs
  • Self reliant and resourceful without refusing help
  • Not overly worried about failing or looking foolish
  • Not harshly or destructively critical of themselves
  • Not aggressively driven to prove themselves –
  • people with normal self-esteem are happy with themselves as they are
  • Able to laugh at themselves, not taking themselves too seriously
People with normal self-esteem might doubt themselves from time to time but their sense of self worth consistently reverts to a balanced state. Having healthy self-esteem does not mean feeling perfect. It is just not being continually plagued by self doubt. Having normal self-esteem means not being excessively high one minute and feeling completely worthless the next.

SOURCE: www.leadersdirect.com
Author: Mitch McCrimmon, Ph.D.

    Answer TRUE or FALSE to the following statements
  1. Other people are not better off or more fortunate than me
  2. I accept myself as I am and am happy with myself
  3. I enjoy socializing
  4. I deserve love and respect
  5. I feel valued and needed
  6. I don’t need others to tell me I have done a good job
  7. Being myself is important
  8. I make friends easily
  9. I can accept criticism without feeling put down
  10. I admit my mistakes openly
  11. I never hide my true feelings
  12. I always speak up for myself and out my views across
  13. I am a happy, carefree person
  14. I don’t worry what others think of my views
  15. I don’t need others’ approval to feel good
  16. I don’t feel guilty about doing or saying what I want
TEST SCORE: Total number of TRUE answers you gave, EACH ONE POINT:
  • 15-16 Points - You have a high level of self-esteem!
  • 12-14 Points - Not bad but room for you to improve
  • 8-11 Points - Low self-esteem is holding you back
  • Below 8 Points - Your esteem is drastically low!
SOURCE: www.more-selfesteem.com
Author: Karl Perera

Therapy can help you significantly improve your self-esteem. If you are concerned about the level of your self-esteem you do not need to suffer any longer.

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