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WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY?
Codependency is a psychological condition in which
someone exhibits too much, and often inappropriate,
caring for other people's struggles. It is also known
as “relationship addiction” because people
with codependency often form or maintain relationships
that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or
Symptoms of codependence are:
- controlling behavior
- avoidance of feelings
- intimacy problems
- caretaking behavior
- hypervigilance or physical illness related
Codependence is often accompanied by depression, as
the codependent person succumbs to feelings of extreme
frustration or sadness over his or her inability to
make changes in the other person's (or persons') life.
Individuals who are suffering from codependence may
seek assistance through various verbal therapies,
sometimes accompanied by chemical therapy for accompanying
depression. In addition, there exist support groups
for codependency; probably among the best-known of
these are Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) and Al-Anon/Alateen,
both of which are based on the 12-Step model created
by Alcoholics Anonymous.
Melody Beattie, author of Codependent No More
developed this check list:
If you answered Yes to several of these questions
you may want to consider seeking the help of a therapist.
- Do you feel responsible for other people--their
feelings, thoughts, actions, choices, wants,
needs, well-being and destiny?
- Do you feel compelled to help people
solve their problems or by trying to take
care of their feelings?
- Do you find it easier to feel and express
anger about injustices done to others than
about injustices done to you?
- Do you feel safest and most comfortable
when you are giving to others?
- Do you feel insecure and guilty when
someone gives to you?
- Do you feel empty, bored and worthless
if you don't have someone else to take care
of, a problem to solve, or a crisis to deal
- Are you often unable to stop talking,
thinking and worrying about other people
and their problems?
- Do you lose interest in your own life
when you are in love?
- Do you stay in relationships that don't
work and tolerate abuse in order to keep
people loving you?
- Do you leave bad relationships only to
form new ones that don't work, either?